17 days and counting

I am sure everyone runs into this problem. An event is scheduled and life creeps in and schedules around it. Sort of like my outlook calendar. So...a quick update on the status of life, the wedding, and the spiral of time.

Twenty-five years ago, give or take, we had an almost 14 year old and an almost 17 year old at our wedding. This week we have one daughter from each of those (now) women visiting us, and yes they are almost 14 and almost 17. We seem to be spirialing through time and revisiting the many elements of the last wedding. How Jewish.

One Jewish view of time is that it is circular, and that events leave a mark on time. We celebrate holy days on a specific day, because that day holds the memory of the event or the commandment. So Shabbat is different than the rest of the week, not because we celebrate from Friday to Saturday, but because the time between sundown Friday and sundown Saturday is different. These hours have been marked, changed, altered, transformed into a scared time period.

So as Ric and I circle around to a wedding we are meeting the many elements that we met the first time, from funerals to teenagers. And joyfully a sense of renewed love. I just found out he even bought me a new ring to use in the ritual.

But still, does that mean that our wedding marked time? And what about our decision to move our anniversary to Halloween all those years ago...did the party we held mark time? Or has Jewish time been waiting for this wedding? What a thought...time knew that we would eventually have a Jewish wedding and waited for us...perhaps even nudged us forward into the right time. The second of Av.

So of course, one of the questions is, when do we celebrate each year...when will time sing a love song to us? Please vote in the poll on the left.